Category: Coach For Women

The Invisible Work We Never Get Credit For

Hello lovelies,

This week, I want to name something that often goes unseen:

The invisible work you carry.

The emotional labor, the mental load, the checking in and showing up — even when no one notices.

You might not get applause for the patience it takes to hold space for someone else’s anger.

No one’s keeping score of how many times you’ve swallowed your own needs to keep the peace.

There are no thank-you notes for the sleepless nights, the inner negotiations, or the relentless inner voice saying “just push through.”

But I see it.

And more importantly, I want you to see it.

This invisible work is real.

And it’s not “just what women do.”

It’s labor. It’s energy. It’s value.

But the cost of carrying it alone, quietly, and endlessly — is often burnout, resentment, or the haunting feeling that your life is full but somehow not your own.

What if you gave yourself credit for the unseen?

What if you paused, even briefly, to acknowledge all the energy you spend keeping things afloat?

This week, I invite you to make the invisible visible.

Not for validation from others — but as a radical act of self-respect.

You deserve to be witnessed.

And sometimes, that witnessing begins with you.

Want to go deeper?

If you’re noticing signs of chronic overwhelm or depletion, I’ve created The Overwhelm Reset.

  • 💌 A gentle 3-day email experience: Receive a short reflection and prompt each day to help you reconnect with your calm.

👉 Your reset is ready for your here — your well-being is worth the pause

© Erika Patterson Coaching 2025. All rights reserved.

Decluttering Your Mind: Release Limiting Beliefs

We often think of decluttering as something we do with closets and calendars. But the most powerful clearing happens inside—within our thoughts, habits, and emotional patterns.

Letting go isn’t just about removing what’s outdated.
It’s about making sacred space for what’s aligned.

🧠 The Mental Clutter We Carry

We carry beliefs that were once survival tools—but now act as silent saboteurs:

  • “I have to do it all myself.”
  • “Rest is lazy.”
  • “If I slow down, I’ll fall behind.”

These thoughts become mental furniture—familiar, but no longer functional. They crowd our inner space, leaving little room for creativity, intuition, or joy.

Letting go of these mindsets doesn’t mean forgetting your past.
It means honoring your evolution and choosing thoughts that reflect your becoming.

🔁 Routines That No Longer Serve

Routines can be grounding—or they can become cages.

Ask yourself:

  • Does this habit energize me or drain me?
  • Am I doing this out of alignment or obligation?
  • What would shift if I gave myself permission to do it differently?

Letting go of outdated routines is an act of self-respect.
It’s saying, “I trust myself to evolve.”

💫 Emotional Weight & Energetic Space

Some of the heaviest clutter we carry is invisible:

  • Guilt for resting
  • Resentment from overgiving
  • Fear of disappointing others
  • Shame for needing help

These burdens live in our nervous systems. They shape how we breathe, how we speak, how we show up. And when we release them—through breathwork, journaling, movement, or simply naming them—we create room for joy, clarity, and connection.

Letting go is not a one-time event.
It’s a sacred rhythm of release and renewal.

🧘🏽‍♀️ The Deeper Why

We cling to what’s familiar because it gives us a sense of control.
But control is not the same as safety.
And certainty is not the same as peace.

Letting go asks us to trust the unknown.
To believe that what’s waiting for us is more nourishing than what we’re leaving behind.

It’s not about giving up.
It’s about giving yourself back.

🌱 A Gentle Invitation

This week, choose one thing to release:

  • A belief
  • A habit
  • A “should”

Then ask:
“What am I making space for?”
 Let that answer guide your next step.

If you’d like support in exploring what’s ready to be released, I offer free 30-minute Clarity Calls. It’s a space to pause, reflect, and reconnect with what matters most. You can book one here or simply reply to this post with a ✨ if you’re curious.

And I’d love to hear from you:
What’s one thing you’re ready to let go of this week?
 Drop it in the comments or DM me—I read every message.

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The Hidden Costs of Emotional Labor: Recognizing Your Burden

How Emotional Labor Silently Weighs Us Down — and How to Begin Releasing It

There’s a kind of weight many women carry that no one else sees.

It doesn’t show up in bloodwork or MRIs.
It’s not tracked in calendars or covered by sick days.

But it’s real.
And it’s heavy.

It’s the weight of being the one who holds everything —
the one who remembers the appointments, smooths the conflicts, anticipates the needs, and keeps it all together.

It’s emotional labor.

And it quietly builds, year after year…
until one day, you can’t ignore the ache anymore.

What Emotional Labor Actually Is

Emotional labor isn’t just managing emotions.
It’s managing everyone else’s emotions — while putting your own on hold.

It looks like:

• Smiling when you’re tired or hurting
• Taking on responsibilities because “no one else will”
• Keeping the peace at the expense of your own peace
• Remembering, softening, stretching, over-giving — and rarely being thanked for it

Most of us learned this so young, we thought it was just what love looked like.

We believed it was our job to hold everything — and everyone.

But here’s the truth:
Just because you can carry it doesn’t mean you have to.

The Hidden Cost

The cost of carrying it all isn’t always loud.
Most of the time, it’s quiet.

It shows up in subtle, persistent ways:

• Exhaustion that rest can’t fix
• Resentment that bubbles up when you least expect it
• A voice you can barely hear anymore
• Tight shoulders, clenched jaw, shallow breath
• Feeling invisible in your own life

It’s easy to dismiss these things.
To tell yourself you’re just tired. Or hormonal. Or being “too sensitive.”

But these aren’t flaws.
They’re signals.

Whispers from the parts of you that are tired of being overlooked — even by you.

You’re Not Broken — You’re Overburdened

If any of this feels familiar, I want you to know:

You’re not behind.
You’re not broken.
You’re not “too much.”
And you’re not “not enough.”

You’ve been doing too much for too long in a world that calls that strength.

But something in you is waking up.

You’re beginning to notice what no longer fits —
and what was never yours to carry in the first place.

Three Gentle Ways to Begin Letting Go

This isn’t about dropping everything overnight.

It’s about beginning — slowly, kindly, in your own time.

Here are three quiet ways to start:

1. Notice without judgment.

Start with your body.
Where are you holding tension?
Ask gently: Is this mine to carry?

2. Say no without apology.

Let your no be simple.
You don’t need a reason or a story.
Your no is enough.

3. Offer yourself the same grace you offer others.

You’ve been showing up for everyone else.
Can you start showing up for you, too?
Even a little?

Even one breath.
One boundary.
One honest no.

You were never meant to carry it all.

You were meant to move through the world rooted, clear, and connected —
not weighed down by invisible expectations.

This month, I invite you to set something down.
Even one small thing.

There is strength in your softness.
There is freedom in your pause.
There is power in naming what you will no longer hold.

You don’t have to do this alone.
This space — and this work — is here for you.

✨ Want a gentle place to begin?

I made this for you:
Finding Clarity – A Gentle Start to Reclaiming Yourself

A quiet invitation to reconnect with your own rhythm, needs, and voice.

Start your Clarity Journey

Or simply begin by exhaling.
You’re already on your way.

© Erika Patterson Coaching 2025. All rights reserved.

Embrace Stillness: A Path to Feminine Power

In a world that demands more, faster, louder… stillness becomes radical.

This week is an invitation to slow down, soften, and return to your own rhythm.

We’re exploring how to shift from hustle to harmony—not by abandoning ambition, but by cultivating presence. Through intentional practices and soul-led check-ins, Week 1 offers spaciousness to breathe, reflect, and begin again.

Because stillness isn’t the absence of movement—it’s the presence of clarity.

We live in a culture that glorifies the grind. Productivity is praised, busyness is worn like a badge, and rest is often mistaken for weakness. But what if the most radical thing you could do this season is… slow down?

Stillness isn’t passive. It’s powerful.

It’s the moment you choose to listen to your body before your calendar. It’s the breath you take before reacting. It’s the sacred pause that reconnects you to your feminine flow—the intuitive, magnetic energy that doesn’t need to chase, prove, or perform.

🌀 Why Stillness Feels Unnatural—And Why We Need It

For many women, stillness feels unfamiliar—even unsafe. Especially if you’ve spent years surviving in high-functioning overwhelm, where movement equals control and silence feels like vulnerability.

Our nervous systems have been trained to equate stillness with danger. When we slow down, old emotions surface. Memories we’ve tucked away begin to whisper. And that can feel overwhelming—until we realize it’s actually an invitation.

Stillness is not the absence of motion. It’s the presence of you.

It’s the space where your soul speaks louder than your schedule. Where your body finally exhales. Where you stop performing and start remembering who you are.

🌿 Feminine Energy Isn’t Fragile—It’s Fierce

To live in your feminine doesn’t mean abandoning ambition. It means aligning your ambition with your soul. It means leading with softness, trusting your intuition, and allowing space for flow instead of force.

Feminine energy is cyclical, intuitive, and deeply embodied. It honors the seasons within us—the moments of bloom, rest, release, and rebirth. When we reclaim this flow, we stop chasing and start attracting. We stop proving and start becoming.

Stillness is the soil where feminine power grows.

💫 From Overwhelm to Opportunity

This is the heart of my coaching practice. I help women move from survival mode to soul-led living. Not by adding more to their plates—but by helping them unburden what no longer serves.

Stillness becomes the doorway to opportunity:

  • Opportunity to hear your own voice again
  • Opportunity to lead from alignment, not anxiety
  • Opportunity to rewrite the story of what success looks like

When we stop rushing, we start receiving.

🛁 A Gentle Challenge

Each day this week, carve out five minutes of intentional stillness. No agenda. No productivity. Just you, your breath, and the quiet wisdom within.

Try placing your hand on your heart and asking:
“What do I need to feel safe in this moment?”
 Let your body answer before your mind does.

Let this be your rebellion. Let this be your return.

✨ Coming Soon: Unburdened

If this message resonates, stay close. My upcoming program Unburdened is designed to help you release the emotional weight you’ve been carrying—and step into a life led by clarity, softness, and self-trust.

Stillness isn’t the end of your journey. It’s the beginning.

✨ From Chaos to Clarity: A Weekend Invitation

Chaos doesn’t always arrive loudly.
Sometimes it creeps in as disconnection.
As exhaustion that doesn’t go away with sleep.
As a constant buzzing under the surface—
a sense that no matter what you do, something is still “off.”

Clarity, on the other hand, isn’t always about knowing what’s next.
Often, it begins with a pause. A breath.
A decision to stop spinning and start listening.

This weekend, I’m inviting you to create space for clarity to emerge.

Here are a few gentle ways to begin:

🪞 1. Start with the Body

Chaos lives in our nervous system.
Try grounding techniques like:

  • Putting your bare feet on the earth
  • Stretching for five minutes
  • Placing your hand over your heart and breathing slowly
    Even one minute of conscious stillness can create a ripple.

✍🏽 2. Journal the Noise Out

Sometimes, clarity comes after the chaos is poured onto paper.
Try this prompt:
→ What’s swirling inside me right now that I haven’t said out loud?

Let it be messy. Let it be honest. You’re not writing for anyone else.

🕯️ 3. Limit the Inputs

Turn down the noise so you can actually hear yourself.
That might mean:

  • A few hours off your phone
  • Saying no to one more scroll
  • Listening to soft music or sitting in silence

Clarity often whispers—it doesn’t shout.

💭 4. Ask a Different Question

If you feel stuck, try shifting your question from:

“What should I do?”
to
“What feels aligned right now?”

Sometimes answers don’t come from the mind.
They rise up from within when we ask better questions.

💌 5. Connect Back to Self

Instead of trying to solve everything this weekend, try this:
Return to yourself.
To what lights you up.
To the version of you that doesn’t need to hustle to be worthy.

Clarity isn’t about doing more.
It’s about remembering who you are underneath the noise.

✨ Ready for deeper clarity?

Book your free 30-minute Clarity Call — a soft, supportive space where you can breathe, sort through the fog, and reconnect to what truly matters.
👉 Book your free call here

With love and gentleness,
Erika 🤍

📢 Ready to Move From Chaos to Clarity?

You don’t have to stay stuck in the spin.

If you’ve been feeling pulled in too many directions, it’s time to pause. Maybe your inner voice has gone quiet. You’re constantly pouring into others with little left for yourself. This is your invitation to stop and reflect.

This week, we’ve been exploring the shift from chaos to clarity.

And while clarity can sound like a far-off destination, it’s often something we return to—not something we chase.
It doesn’t require perfection.
It just asks for presence.

If this theme has stirred something in you…
If you’re craving space to breathe, reset, and reconnect with you…

Here’s where you can begin:

💌 Send me a message with the word “CLARITY”—I’d love to hold space for whatever you’re navigating.
📖 Or visit The Opportunity Journal. It is a simple but powerful reflection practice. This practice can help you move from overwhelm to grounded intention. [Insert link]

Clarity might not come in a lightning bolt.
But it does come.
One breath, one truth, one soft return at a time.

🕊️
With love,
Erika

Awareness as the Path to Clarity

No matter how you responded—whether you dive into doing, distract yourself, or completely shut down—just know this:

There’s no wrong answer. There’s only awareness.
And awareness is the first step toward clarity.

This week is all about moving from chaos to clarity.
That doesn’t happen by force—it happens by noticing, by choosing something different one moment at a time.

You don’t have to change overnight.
You just have to choose again, when you’re ready.

💬 Feel free to share more in the comments—your insights might help someone else feel seen too.

🕊️
With love,
Erika

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✨ FROM CHAOS TO CLARITY

Even the Storms Teach Us

This week, I’m diving into a theme that feels especially tender and true:
From Chaos to Clarity.

There was a time I thought chaos was something I had to fight, organize, or fix.

But what I’ve come to learn—sometimes the hard way—is that chaos isn’t always the enemy. Sometimes it’s the invitation.
The pause.
The whisper that says, “This version of you isn’t meant to continue.”

Life can feel overwhelming when the pieces don’t seem to fit. It feels this way when everything is loud and nothing feels certain. Often, these feelings occur because something deeper is trying to emerge.
Clarity doesn’t come from tightening our grip.
It comes when we soften.

I used to spin in circles, trying to do my way into peace.
Now? I breathe.
I journal.
I listen.
I surrender to the not-knowing, and in that space… clarity begins to rise.

🌀 If you’re standing in the middle of chaos, I want you to hear this:
You’re not broken.
You’re becoming.
And you’re not alone.

💬 What has chaos taught you recently? I’d love to hear in the comments.

🕊️
With love,
Erika

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Finding Freedom from Overwhelm: Small Steps to Healing

There was a time when overwhelm wasn’t just a feeling—it was my everyday reality. I was surviving, not living… until a quiet voice within began to stir, whispering for something more. More rest. More truth. More me.
This is the story of how I found my way back to myself—and how you can, too.

There was a time in my life when overwhelm wasn’t just a feeling—it was the soundtrack of every single day.

I was carrying so much all at once:

  • Healing from deep trauma,
  • Managing the invisible emotional labor of caregiving,
  • Raising three daughters, one with special needs.
  • And quietly trying to rediscover a voice I’d long silenced in an abusive relationship

The weight felt relentless, like a storm that never quite passed.

Some mornings, I’d wake up with a tight knot in my chest, the kind that whispers, “Not today. Not again.” But the world kept spinning, and so did I—barely holding myself together.

I learned early on that being “nice” was safer. It was my armor and my cage all at once.

Pleasing others was easier than rocking the boat, easier than facing the uncomfortable truth that I was shrinking, fading, disappearing.

Every time I swallowed my truth, a little piece of me grew smaller, quieter.

And yet beneath that quiet, something stirred—a deep ache for something different.

For freedom. For authenticity. For joy that wasn’t just a fleeting visitor.

That yearning didn’t come with fireworks or fanfare.

It arrived as a whisper beneath the noise of exhaustion and self-doubt.

It was the courage to say no when my body begged for rest.

The strength to set a boundary, even if it felt shaky and new.

The boldness to finally claim my own needs, even when I feared disappointing others.

Reclaiming myself was not a straight path.

It took time, patience, and an immense amount of grace.

Sometimes it meant sitting with discomfort—leaning into the hard feelings instead of running away.

Sometimes it meant stepping backward to gather strength before moving forward again.

But through it all, I discovered a truth I wish someone had told me sooner. Overwhelm feels heavy and crushing. However, it holds a hidden gift within it.

The gift of clarity.

The opportunity to recognize what no longer serves us.

And the invitation to begin the tender work of letting go.

This space—where overwhelm meets opportunity—is where my coaching heart lives.

If I can rise from silence and from that crushing weight of overwhelm, then so can you. I moved into a place of clarity, agency, and hope.

You don’t have to have it all figured out.

You don’t have to be perfect or “fixed.”

You just need to take the next small step.

And know you’re not alone on this journey.

Reflection to Carry With You

  • When have you felt overwhelmed in a way that changed you?
  • What small step toward yourself feels possible today?
  • How your story, your voice, might be a source of strength for others?

Thank you for being here.

Thank you for your courage to keep showing up.

I see you. I hear you. And I’m walking with you.

— Erika

💬 Ready to take your next small step?

Whether you’re navigating burnout, seeking your voice again, or simply craving a moment to breathe—I’m here. Let’s explore what’s possible, together.

👉 Book a free discovery call
👉 Learn more about my 1:1 coaching
👉 Join my newsletter for gentle support + tools

You’re worthy of support. And you don’t have to do it alone.

She Wasn’t Handed a Damn Thing—But She’s Still Rising

Some women are handed a map.


She had to carve the path with her own two hands.

She wasn’t handed peace.
Or protection.
Or an easy out.

Life threw its punches—
and she took them.

She spit out the blood.
Swallowed the tears.
And kept going.

Her story?
It’s not tidy.
It’s not a highlight reel.
It’s full of heartbreak and hard choices,
shaky hands and sleepless nights,
moments where her spirit whispered, “I can’t,”
but her feet kept moving anyway.

This—
this is what resilience really looks like.

It’s not polished.
It’s not Instagram-worthy.
It’s not wrapped in daily affirmations or curated vision boards.

It’s raw.
It’s real.
It’s getting up again—when no one even knows how hard it was to open your eyes that morning.

If this is you… welcome.

You’re not broken.
You’re not behind.
You are not too much, and you are certainly not not enough.

You are a woman who’s been surviving in a world that hasn’t made it easy.
But you’re here now.

Not just to survive—
but to rise.

Not because you’re done being tired,
but because some part of you—
maybe a tiny, trembling part—
still hopes there’s more than just this.

And there is.

There’s a version of you…

Who knows how to breathe again.
Who trusts her own voice.
Who says no without guilt and yes without fear.
Who sees overwhelm not as her identity,
but as a signal—
a whisper that something needs to shift,
and that she is allowed to shift with it.

This isn’t about pretending life isn’t hard.
It’s about meeting that hard with gentleness
and finally asking:

“What if I don’t have to do this alone anymore?”

You don’t. Not now. Not here.

This is your invitation:
To lay down the weight.
To catch your breath.
To remember who the hell you are underneath the exhaustion.

You are not too late.
You are not too far gone.
You are not broken beyond repair.

You are a phoenix.

And this?
This isn’t your ending.

This is your rise.